For Day 4 of Speak Out With Your Geek Out, I will make a few promises to myself:
- I will not suffer Geek Shame. For most of my life, when people asked me about my hobbies, I usually answered with reading, grilling, computer games, computer hacking, etc., but I always shied away from the role-playing games. No more. I will make that one of the first things I mention, if not the first. I’m through with Geek Shame.
- I will engage others in conversation about my Geek passions. This flows from the last promise. When people ask, “What do you mean by ‘role-playing games,'” I will explain it, to the best of my ability. However, I must make sure that I don’t drone on, bore the questioner, and possibly drive them off. As a geek, I do tend to get overexcited about my passions.
- I will try to bring people into my Geek hobbies and/or passions. This, too, flows from the last promise. Excitement is contagious, and if the person with whom I am conversing seems interested, I will invite them to my next game, perhaps, or loan them a rulebook. Gaming is a social activity, after all, which is improved with more participants (to a point, of course).
- I will cultivate the Geek traits and interests in my daughters. Flows from the last, again. (Hmm, a pattern emerges?) Being a father is a pillar of my self-definition. I see the nascent traits in all three of my girls. I will do my best to encourage their Geek to grow. At the same time, I will do my best to instill in them the self-confidence that I lacked. I must, must, must be certain not to force them into anything. I know well enough what that is like.
- I will work harder to make time for my Geek passions. (And the pattern falls!) Real life rears its ugly head oh-too-often. I have obligations to family, friends, work, home-upkeep, etc.. I am not complaining, but this does take up nearly all of my time. I will work harder to live up to these obligations in a more timely manner, so as to open up the time for my Geek.
Looking over my list, it seems I want to focus on being myself at all times, teach others about my Geek hobbies, as well as bring others into the hobbies. Perhaps I’m not being too ambitious, but I’m happy with it.